The Treasure Chest Theory - Part 2/2

Collage: Justine Anweiler, Relish In Your Rubies 1 & 2, 2024.

Relishing your rubies: I wanted to give you examples of how this plays out in our relationships and environments.

Initially we have mutual admiration for each other’s chests. Yours may be full of rubies and gold coins, whilst theirs are full of copper and emeralds. Making rubies quite a find.

Something new.
Something shiny.
Something bold.
Something coveted.

However, in time, desire transitions to disinterest between one or both parties.

They may decide they want sapphires instead of rubies.

In our environment:

Many of us grew up in places that prized sapphires and we were born with rubies.

I grew up in a city that often felt like the gemstones in my chest were alien, outrageous, and unwanted. From a young age, I valued making choices that were right for me regardless of how at odds they were with a culture hellbent on belonging. I wanted to belong as me, not in spite of me.

I spent my developmental years trying to convince the people around me that rubies had value when all they wanted were sapphires. I proudly shared my treasure chest and faced disappointment. I lived in constant debate with myself: knowing my inner modus operandi was something special, but feeling like everyone saw me as endearing, idealistic, irresponsible, and cute.

I questioned the value of my rubies and with no luck tried to become a sapphire.

So I moved . . . in search of somewhere that coveted my rubies.

At work:

An example in your career might be that you were hired for your quick ideas and global experience, and yet a year later you are being told you need to develop as a charismatic speaker.

Your rubies need to become sapphires.

What happens when others start deciding what needs to be in our chest is we begin to question ourselves.

Question the worth of our experiences.
Question the worth of our choices.
Question our worth.

The transition from mutual appreciation to “I need something different” is normal. Yet our conditioned response to become something different – trading in our rubies for sapphires — is not. Especially if it is not of our choosing.

My belief is that each of us has a treasure chest and we experience friction when what we have is no longer of value. Rather than questioning the contents of what we carry, what if we followed my new friend's pathway of confidence?

Meaning . . . the next time we find ourselves in a relationship that no longer cherishes what is in our treasure chest, we close it with conviction. Taking our treasure somewhere to be valued or invested in (pirating).

Where we would be if 𝘄𝗲 most valued the collection of our experiences and our being? Not wondering if we acquired the wrong gems — but instead — trusting that as soon we close our chest in one direction, something will appear in another.

Something with a deep appreciation of what we have to offer and a deep need for it.

Article FAQs generated by AI:
1. How do I recognize the value of my own "rubies" in a world that often prizes "sapphires"?
Recognizing the value of your own unique qualities and experiences, or "rubies," requires self-reflection and self-acceptance. Consider your strengths, achievements, and the aspects of yourself that bring you joy and fulfillment. Understand that these qualities are valuable, even if they aren't always appreciated by those around you. Building a strong sense of self-worth and seeking out environments that appreciate your unique contributions can help you stay true to your intrinsic value.

2. How can I find an environment or community that values my unique qualities?
Finding an environment that values your unique qualities involves seeking out communities, workplaces, or social circles that align with your values and appreciate your individuality. Research and explore groups or organizations that resonate with your interests and strengths. Networking with like-minded individuals, attending events, and participating in activities where your "rubies" are recognized and cherished can help you discover spaces where you feel valued and understood.

3. What steps can I take when I feel undervalued in my current environment?
When you feel undervalued in your current environment, it's essential to reassess and take proactive steps. Begin by having open conversations with those around you to express your feelings and seek mutual understanding. If the environment remains unsupportive, consider exploring new opportunities that align better with your values and strengths. Developing new skills, seeking mentorship, and staying true to your core values can help you transition to a place where your unique contributions are genuinely appreciated.